Here’s what she wrote earlier this week to a relationship columnist with the Boston Globe:
Long time, first time. Back story is that I started dating my best friend of about five years this past September. He is the most kindhearted, gentle, and fun person I know. He has seen me go through my share of bad relationships and heartache. He’s two years older than me and this is his first real relationship and longest relationship. We both started to like each other early last year but didn’t act on it until the summer. We were scared to cross the line and he was studying for Part 2 of the CFA (crazy finance test!) all last winter/spring so I didn’t want to distract him.
He was always the one pushing for us to start dating once it was on the table, and after spending time with him, I grew to love him. It’s by far the best relationship I’ve been in and he treats me so well I could see myself spending the rest of my life with him (I’m 23. I’ve been around the block. I’ve known him for 5 years).
He is in the thick of studying for part 3 of the CFA right now and has been since January. The test is in early June. I have been incredibly understanding about his priority (passing this test!). When his job and the studying became extra stressful last month, he threw a curve ball at me and said that he felt like something was missing in our relationship but that he couldn’t decipher if it was his external stresses or just us. We decided to work on it, but more recently the conversation came back up and he said he still feels something is missing. I’m deeply hurt by this and I really just hope it’s the stress of the CFA that is sucking the life out of him, but I also don’t think it’s fair for me to sit around and wait until after the CFA for my “trial period” to be up.
We called it off last night and I’m just looking for some help on how I should be feeling about this situation and what to do after the CFA is over in June. Reevaluate? Move on? Is he just a commitment-phobe?
As we mentioned last week, in the grand tradition of business school follies, the performances generally have the same sort of appeal as a train wreck you can’t look away from. Which is why we were pretty surprised by this year’s offerings from NYU Stern, which were actually fairly amusing in their own right (in particular, the Black Swot). Naturally, we assumed this was an aberration and not some sort of newfangled trend wherein these things have entertainment value. Then something happened a few hours ago that frightened us and left us searching for answers. Read more »
Take a good look at the picture up top. Mom. Kids. Hanging out on a Saturday, like a family. But where’s dad? At the office? A strip club? None of the above. He’s working out, which is why mom wants to divorce and/or kill him. Read more »
Are you among the happy 36 percent? What will you be doing to celebrate? Running out and buying the next level of books during lunch? Not as lucky? Feeling like you just threw away the last four to six months of your life? Want to get angry? Want to make someone pay? Want to see the institute’s denial of your quest to put their precious three letters next to your name with three letters of your own? Or just have a good cathartic cry? Read more »